Absurd Person Singular – how to stop hiding and show up to integrity
Sep 5, 2011
Just as no one admits to being a bad driver or a lukewarm lover so it is that we find it hard to put our hand up to being out of integrity. Yet this is no brain twister – you are either in integrity or you are not. It’s that simple.
So how can you tell? When you are out of integrity life’s “stuff” seems to conspire against you – people, bills, bad debts, relationships, and your health. Your find yourself reacting in a bad way to others, life starts to feel something you endure rather than enjoy and there’s a sense that something is missing.
There are many ways we can fool ourselves to avoid being authentic. Blaming others, things or circumstances or feeling “why bother?” and employing blithe but potentially damaging carelessness with yourself or others.
Here are some common examples of being a person out of integrity or, as I like to call it, an absurd person singular:
- Not returning calls when you say you will
- In fact any time you say you are going to do something and fail to do so as you said you would
- Parking in disabled spaces (even if you are going to be on minute)
- Not returning the supermarket trolley (you know who you are!)
- Any addictions or health damaging habits
- Any part of your life you are not taking responsibility for
- Victim thinking
- Using excuses frequently
- Being routinely late for meetings socially and professionally
- Worrying debt issues
- Corporate theft (taking home stationery, diddling your expenses)
- Regularly not delivering on your promises
- Acting the ingénue
- Often trying “get away” with bad behavior/things
- Emotional infidelity – flirting, eye-chasing attractive strangers
- Not doing your share (and knowing it)
- Feeling resentful
- Attracting destructive people
If you are feeling a little uncomfortable reading some of things don’t worry you are not alone.
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